How the law of attraction changes others

So I’ve been reading the Astonishing Power of Emotions, slowly thanks to my work schedule.  One thing that I hadn’t been able to start to put into words before is starting to make sense now.  I’ll try to explain.  We humans tend to focus on others as the source of our unhappiness.  “If so and so would just do _____, I would feel better.”  Except that’s not true.  The feeling is ours, we need to be the one to feel better, not someone else.  No one can make us feel.  I understand that when it’s put that way - no one makes us feel anything.  But it’s also impossible to deny that others provide the opportunity for us to feel contrary to the way we wish.

The Law of Attraction tells us that, as soon as we are in alignment with our higher self, we get what we want.   But, what if what we want is for someone else to do something?  We can’t make them do anything - yet that is what we want.  We usually screw up by focusing on them making a change.  But, when we focus on our feelings and on reaching for better feeling thoughts, then we come into alignment and get what we want.  So, say you want someone to just leave your life.  You are sick of all the drama they bring into your life, and know it would be better for them to just be gone.   So your higher self says, “ok”.  But you focus on the other person, thus keeping them in your life.  Until that day when you just let go.  Then, almost like magick, they are gone.  You came into alignment with yourself, and your experience manifested what you wanted - the other person gone.  As long as we focus on trying to make someone else do something, it doesn’t happen.  Yet as soon as we let go and allow, they do just what we wanted all along.  Seems a bit strange.  How could this be?

Well, I have a theory (of course).  Neale Donald Walsch teaches us that we are all souls, and that our souls can’t be forced to do anything.  But, we agree to do things all the time so other souls can experience something.  This is explained in the Little Soul and the Sun part 1 and part 2.   So, the Law of Attraction says that our higher self makes what we want happen - it doesn’t say how it happens.  What if our soul is having a chat with the other soul in question, and they are coming to an agreement.  Neither person knows this is going on consciously.  But, once you come into alignment, the other person now has an awareness that they should just leave the situation.

That’s my working theory for now.  I don’t have a clue if I can learn whether it’s true or not, but I’ll certainly ask and see.  I also don’t know how to explain times when what we want doesn’t come to pass.  But that’s probably as simple as not believing or introducing other negativity or blockages - not allowing.  I’m not going to stress on it.  This is enough of an understanding for now anyway. 

come into alignment - that brings us what we want

if we want others to stop being something, higher self talks to that higher self, makes an agreement, thus people change without our forcing