The book study is actually not just David and I, but Connor. Both of these young men have been my student and friend for quite some time now, so it’s fun. David and I are coming from the motivation of money, Connor for other reasons, but the underlying issues (such as receiving) are the same. So, this book is handy for more than just money.
Tonight we were chatting about how we may have come up with a coping mechanism in the past to protect us, but that those mechanisms are no longer beneficial. We have a similar issue in keeping people at a distance. I built a massive shield very early in life. And I learned not to open up to people. That massive brick wall of a shield keeps me from opening my awareness more, and that doesn’t work for me anymore. But, attempts to drop the shield have not gotten far. So today when I was talking to Connor, I gave him some advice that turned out to work well for me.
In our various training, one of key concepts is to not make something wrong, as wrong is a judgment, and judgment keeps you from getting free. I asked him not to make his past coping mechanisms wrong, and then told him to thank his body for protecting him as best as it knew how. Then I went off and did the same thing. Specifically I thanked my body and my brain for what they did to protect me. I then asked for us all to work together to create something greater. Doing this created instant change! I’ve been fuzzy headed, which is simply due to not being used to being that open. Not that I’m wide open, but certainly more open than usual, which is progress. Upon checking with the guides I was reminded to let things pass through me, which is the last bit I need to pass along to Connor as well. For anyone curious enough to try this exercise, here is what it means to let things pass through you.
The background, from a course I recently wrote.
Exercise 1: Feeling the Edges
If you were to look at yourself in the mirror, where would you say ‘you’ exist? Is it where you see your body? That’s what our eyes typically tell us. But we can use more than our eyes to answer this question.
Sit somewhere comfortable and close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths and relax your body.
Once comfortable, try to feel the edge of you. Reach out with your awareness and see if you
find a place where ‘you’ end. Keep reaching… and reaching… and when you’re done, come back
to this text.
How did that feel? Did you find your edge? Are you just a bit larger than what you saw in the mirror? Recognizing that you, the being, exist beyond your body is a critical step in becoming a Jedi.
Exercise 2: Become Space
Now that you have experienced existing everywhere (or at least much farther than you thought), let’s take this deeper. The Force, while existing everywhere, is particularly noticeable in the space between matter. What does this mean?
Matter is made up of atoms. Within an atom you have the nucleus and electrons. When you look at an atom very closely, you can see that it is mostly space, with very little ‘stuff’. When you put atoms
together to form molecules, this remains true. The picture below shows metal atoms. The nuclei never touch. The forces between the atoms are what holds the molecules together – all of which is in essence ‘empty’ space. So while we experience matter as solid, it is not.
In our daily lives, we don’t see anything at the atomic scale, so we believe things to be solid, including ourselves. The revamped show Cosmos actually addresses this in an episode where they mention that we never actually touch anything. What we define and experience as touch is the interaction of the electromagnetic fields in the various molecules involved. Yet if you try to imagine that you never actually physically touch anything else, it’s pretty hard to wrap the mind around! It doesn’t match our experience.
This exercise is to help you experience that space in some way, to become one with it, and thus the
Force. Remember, this is already your natural state, to be space. It doesn’t take effort to return to a
natural state, only the release of your preconceived ideas.
To begin, take a few deep breaths to relax. Close your eyes and focus on the space between the
molecules of your body. Expand that space, out in every direction. Expand all of the cells in your
body, even the space within the individual atoms of your body. Expand that space, and your
entire body with it, and fill the room you are in. Then continue expanding, to fill the building.
Then, your town. Then your state/region. Continue expanding to your country, and then the
whole earth. Keep expanding, until you are present throughout the solar system, and onward to
the galaxy until you fill the entire universe! Stay here as long as you’d like, just sensing what is
If this is hard to do at first, focus on setting the intention to expand and go as far as you can. Don’t worry if you don’t think you’re going far enough, just intend your energy to continue expanding and it will go there, even if it’s beyond your ability to sense at this point.
Enough background. This all relates back to the opening of shielding. See, the idea of shielding is to block things out. Most of us learn shielding so we can block everything out, because we don’t have much awareness. It’s a ‘better safe than sorry’ for most. And that works for people, to the extent that they are aware of. But I’ve learned more in the last year. When we cut out everything, our awareness is seriously limited. That doesn’t work for me anymore. Hence the exercise today. Now, the key to add to that is to now not hold onto the new information that comes in. We are space, all it takes is remembering that, and now the energy can pass through instead of sticking. That includes emotions from others, which often throws people for a loop. They get the awareness of an emotion, but they mistakenly think it is theirs. This is why empaths struggle so much. Being able to let the energy go when it comes in allows the awareness without getting thrown off.
So, that’s the key. Don’t make old coping skills wrong. Thank the body and mind for all they’ve done, and ask them to help you create something greater. And then remember to let the new energies coming in to pass right through. This makes it easier to stay more open. And that’s what’s happened in just this evening. :-)